You more than likely herpes. Sorry to break the news to you but it’s true! If you don’t believe me then ask a medical professional if you do? Nearly everyone on this planet is infected with some strain of the Herpes virus. Or at least 50-80% of the worldwide population has the Herpes simplex virus one, according to the National Institutes of Health. Does that mean your gonna break out it and have blisters on your face? No! It does mean that this idea of someone being “clean” or pure needs to be thrown out the fucking window. If you have ever kissed someone then you could be infected! Shocking I know. Let’s get this notion of someone having a disease or infection is sick or unhealthy because it’s not true. Because everyone on this carbon-based planet has it and its normal!!!! Some people are gonna break out and have blisters on their mouths and others won’t. It’s healthy!
The real issue is the lack of empathy
Having a disease or infection doesn’t make you less of a person or a human being. Why don’t we think of these “STDS” or “STIS” the same way we think about cancer? Why because cancer isn’t contagious? Or the bigger issue is the stigma that society places around sex? Yep! How many times have you seen or been told the idea that only promiscuous people have STD? A lot! Little medical knowledge for you, it only takes one time! That means one partner one time! So the idea of being promiscuous can be thrown out of the window as well. Myth debunked!!
Those with STDS or STIs have a hard time fitting into society because of the idea of you not being “clean” then you’re a disease, not a person. A study was done with 201 participants with men and women to see if they wore any psychiatric disorders that developed over a course of time. According to the study, “45% of participants had current mood or substance use disorders, and 29% had personality disorders (most often, antisocial personality disorder” (Linda M. Mundy, MD) That’s crazy numbers for otherwise healthy people to have. Mental health is something that needs to be addressed when someone is dealing with an std or another form of disease or illness that isn’t curable. We as a society need to recognize that anyone and everyone can catch an STD that doesn’t have a cure. No one is above catching any STD.
Sex is not a sin!
Throughout my own experience through childhood to early adolescence, I’ve been taught by the American school system that sex is a sin. That sex results in two things and that’s a baby or an STD. In fact, in my 7th grade Health class that’s exactly what the teacher said! That’s a lot to throw at a young girl in her health class. So for most of my teenage years, I was brainwashed into thinking that you don’t have sex because of its evil! What’s so evil about the sensation of cognitive and physical arousal? Nothing!!!! Not a damn thing! If you wanna go have sex, then go get it! Use protection and be safe then that’s all you need to do! Obviously scaring kids into believing that sex is a bad thing is not helping the pregnancy rates and it’s not helping to teach kids about real diseases. Why not educate young girls and boys on the multipurpose of a condom and the proper use of birth control. Let’s face it! People are never gonna stop having sex and that’s the truth. What is gonna help as a society is talking about issues and informing everyone who ever had sex or is considering having sex! It’s not a dirty word! The act isn’t bad and it rather should be celebrated more then it is.
Your health is important!
Nobody else should matter before your own sexual, physical and mental health. You can have sex and should have sex but be safe! There are real things out there and there are people who don’t care about you! So you got to care about you! I’m not saying live in a state of constant anxiety about STDs, but what I am saying is that if you have one then let’s talk about it and if you don’t then let’s talk about it! You need to get informed ( through research and proper studies) and understand what it really is! I found that my education system failed at its job to inform me but rather they used their own biases to make be believe their false ideologies. If you don’t wanna practice sex then that’s okay! You don’t have to! But make that choice on your own! If you choose to have sex that’s okay and make that choice on your own! If you do choose to have sex with another person then protect yourself! You matter! Just because this is your first or second partner doesn’t mean that you are that person’s first or 2nd partner. Make sense? Basically, you are sleeping with everyone they slept with. If you think about you could be going in a continues cycle with the number of partners everyone has had.
If you ain’t eating like take out then go home!
I want every girl and every woman to know that sex is great and it’s amazing! Sex is for pleasure! Sex should be about self-pleasure as well as a partner! I had a partner that was so focused on himself and I was miserable! No orgasm, no excitement phase for me and his performance were lacking! So Let me tell you when you need to talk to your partner about what you like and how you like it then you will start enjoying sex! SPOILER ALERT!! SEX ISNT JUST PENIS IN A VAGINA!!! I wanted to get that off my chest for so long! SEX is a combination of things! You don’t need a vagina to have sex just like you don’t need a penis either. My point is sex is supposed to be enjoyable for everyone involved! So if you don’t like missionary style all the time, then say something! If you wanna have oral, then tell them! Staying silent about bad sex is a killer to every single romantic relationship! If you get turned on by having them bite your neck, then tell them! If you get inhibited by something they do, then say so! Sex can be physically and emotionally vulnerable with another person! So go ahead and enjoy the physicality of it! ME! I’m gonna enjoy it! If you can’t say the same then do something about it!
I was wrong and This is an apology letter to my friend:
I’m inserting this paragraph in here for an apology to my friend that is living with an std and the stereotypes and stigmas surrounding the disease and him. I’m so very sorry! I didn’t know what I know now and I should’ve been more emphatic and understanding of you. Because at the root of everything you are a human being with a heartbeat. I treated you like you wore beneath me and that was wrong! Due to the false ideologies that I had grown up on and my lack of education made me see you as something less than a person. I wish you the very best and I want to help find a cure for everyone that is living with an STD! I wanna have more of an impact on this issue!
Dark&Stormi 
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